Hi Hazel,
To check for wear metals then you would run spectroscopy analysis. It really doesn't matter which one unless you are overly concerned with ppm accuracy. Or if you really want to do this at home then clean a magnet and put it into the oil. You might want to consider wrapping it in plastic. (Most common wear matals are Fe based) So then you look at the magnet/plastic bag under a microscope. Even in a new oil from a reputal manufacturer supplier there might be small amounts of "wear" metals.
Comparing a new oil to a new oil you suspect is mixed with used oil by comparing the colour that is left on a blotter paper will be inconclusive. The manufacturer can change the source of supply of their base stock and it might be a slightly different colour than the origional. How would you know which was which?
FTIR as lish suggested could be used but only if you are comparing, through spectrial subtraction, the analysis from the same batch of base oil, then you could compare the commonly known frequency bands for oxidation etc. The bad part here again is that the oil could have been stored in a high temperature environment.
All this boils down to the fact that if the oil is re-refined then you will in all likelyhood never know (unless the manufacturer has claimed the tax benifets avaliable and has it printed on their label)
So testing it at home or testing it in the lab unless it is grossly obvious that it is a used product, you will not be able to determine the difference.
regards.....